Two related topics here.
Could Esther or another instructor show us how to install a baby for bottle feeding with good posture? Breastfeeding has so many possibilities for natural posture. Bottle feeding, not so much!
I put my six-month-old son across my lap, not facing away from me. I hold him with my left arm; my upper arm supports his neck/shoulder area, and I try to stretch his spine so that his pelvis is healthy. However, when I feel his upper back, his spine is always curved/jutting out. I can find absolutely NO way to fix it.
I think this is also related to his general sitting posture problem. He cannot sit without support, and with support his sitting is bad. When I hold him normally, with his chest against mine, upright vertically, his pelvis is well aligned (his upper back still curves though!). But anytime he tries to sit with support, whether on my leg (if he sits up straight from the bottle feeding position), in a high chair (which I've only put him in a couple times), or anywhere else, he tucks his pelvis horribly. And his upper spine juts out.
In my opinion he has these problems as a result of spending hours for his naps in an ErgoBaby until he was 3.5 months old. In the carrier, his pelvis was tucked and upper back curved. And now I think that bottle feeding since that time is continuing the problem.
Esther Gokhale said that we have to plant their pelvises well. That isn't work at all for us. Does it need to be on a very firm surface? She also wrote to hold his pelvis in an anteverted position for a minute or so to "reset" the muscles. I do this, but as I wrote, his pelvis is already fine in that position, and at any rate I haven't seen this help at all with his sitting issue. :-(
They say that in order to start solids, your baby must be able to sit well without support. From a Gokhale perspective, if your baby sits badly with support, does that mean he's not ready, or is it just a matter of him being carried badly? When he's in his high chair, he leans/falls forward. Otherwise, he's always had strong neck muscles.
Thanks for your help, from a broken-hearted mother!